Flirgan Elf

To wed or not to marry? That is the doubt. It never used to be the query. It was before ‘When to marry?’ not ‘why to marry’. For many years adult females were expected and put pressure on themselves to catch a hubby young, have the ceremony and set up home with kids and a pet, and committhe rest of their lives to running a good home. Possibly because women have been set free from what were once their established roles, that a wedding ceremony is no longer as important and without doubt not the only path to go along. In fact umpteen people- both men and women- decidedly detest the idea of marriage, and can’t imagine looking into a partner’s eyes and promising whole-heartedly to spend the remaider of their days with them until the end. In many ways it’s sad, because weddings can be such gay occassions especially when they feature a glorious wedding dress and sky lanterns. But, ill-omened marriages can be devastating, financially and emotionally damaging, and the most isolating things ever. Though being in a poor relationship is also extremely isolating, somehow with the marriage mark, it’s even worse. FriendsWork colleagues have certain expectations of a pair when they are formally married and have also spent so much dosh on their wedding day. They are expected to be happy or to at least try their hardest to be so. As a result of this sensed external pressure, many couples feel they have to put on a show and veil their honest emotions. The reason why there were more marriages or why marriages endured a few generations ago is because couples had no choice but to keep pressing on with their relationship. This is good in some respects, but in others, it is very wasteful. Yes there were a greater amount of marriages, but there were also many more desperately suffering ones.